18 Things for Men to Say in ’18 — at the Golden Globes, or Anywhere

Not one male Golden Globe winner used a moment on camera to mention #MeToo or #TimesUp or sexual assault or men’s violence against women. So I put together a little list of simple, practical sentences that could slide out of men’s mouths at the next award ceremony… or anytime this year, really.

1. I trust women.
2. I believe women.
3. I stand with survivors.
4. I will hold perpetrators accountable.
5. To end sexual violence we must end toxic masculinity.
6. To end sexual violence we must acknowledge, address, and end white male violence.
7. I am here to help men have better emotional lives, better friendships, better access to both emotional support and accountability.
8. I am here to change myself as part of changing our culture.
9. I withdraw my support for the ideals of toxic masculinity.
10. I withdraw my support from men who perpetrate sexual violence. I will not be complicit.
11. I will stop working with toxic violent men.
12. I will stop working with rapists and abusers.
13. I will stop producing media that glorifies toxic violent men.
14. I will stop producing media that glorifies rapists and abusers.
15. I will support media produced by women and queer people of color, with my money and with my social power.
16. I will support media that challenges white male dominance, with my money and with my social power.
17. I will make mistakes and accept critique.
18. I will work hard to make change. Change in my personal life, change in my work life. Change in ways I can’t possibly imagine. I’m here for it.