How not to start a fight, even when you really, really want to…
In the last week before our wedding, there are still several loose ends. Several decisions that still need to be…
weddings, marriage, & divorce
How my Self Esteem Plummeted during Wedding Planning
I can’t exactly identify when it happened, but I’m sure it was sometime this spring semester. I hadn’t had this…
What’s in a Name? Identity, family, and figuring it out
Getting married raises question of whether one or both of us will change our names as an indication of this…
Why are we getting married? Accepting privilege while wanting it eliminated
Having reached the midway-point of this June journey of wedding-prep, I will take a break to reflect on why I’m…
Sanctifying our union: Setting the scene through an opening blessing
From even before getting engaged, I knew that my partner and I would have a blast working out our wedding…
Reckoning with Personal Privilege
This weekend was Boston Queer Pride. As a cisgendered female about to marry a cisgendered male, I spent a lot…
Doing Femme
Yes, wearing makeup can be a feminist act. Wanting to appear feminine and femininely put-together can be a feminist desire….
Three lessons about decision-making I’ve learned from wedding-planning: A guest post
When I told my partner about my series for this month on wedding planning, he asked if he could contribute….
The Social Construction of Desire
I have a confession: I am getting my makeup done professionally for the wedding. Well, let me qualify that confession:…
Stamps of Sexism
As much as we try to have a feminist, egalitarian wedding, we are still participants in the heterosexist patriarchy. We…